John Florio, a linguist and lexicographer said, “A good husband makes a good wife.” So gentlemen, are you all listening?
A man gets married and then becomes so busy juggling office, children, friends, and other errands, that he forgets his other half. That person who sets him free every morning to focus on his work while she prepares a place called home that’s clean, well-stocked, orderly, and comfortable. Alas, his wife often comes last in his priority or to-do list, and her hard work is often deemed as an obligatory duty.
So, who is a good husband?
A good husband not only praises his wife’s cooking, but helps her wash the dishes too. A good husband not only pays money for the vacuum cleaner but uses it around the house too. A good husband not only buys nursery books, but reads them to the kids too.
When was the last time you did any of that?
If you think your list is long, wait till you see her list of chores! After all, she is the one who does the lion’s share of the housework or rather all of it. And let’s face it, cooking, washing dishes, feeding babies, vacuuming, buying grocery, making the beds, doing the laundry, ironing, and other inconsequential but significant tasks, are so repetitive and boring that it can drive anybody crazy!
And if your wife does all of that, hats off to her energy and congratulations to you Sir, you have a damn good wife!
It’s pay back time, my dear husbands. Oh, don’t even think of taking the quintessential route of flowers and perfumes. They are classic wife pleasers and make for a kind gesture, but in modern times, the effect just doesn’t last long. But getting your hands dirty and working a sweat will definitely make her believe you care for her and the house. So, get ready for some real action! Take that vacuum cleaner and clean the house, take that scrub and attack the bathtub and sinks, collect dirty garments and do the laundry – not just wash them, but dry, fold and keep them in their respective places. Sometimes action speaks louder than words, and is more impactful than a bouquet of roses.
Arrange a movie night for your wife and her girlfriends. Open your wallet and sponsor their tickets. For a couple of bucks, you will not just win her heart, but their praises too. Moreover if you initiate the outing, she wouldn’t feel bad leaving her kids home while she is having fun. If this was enjoyable to her, next time you can send them off for a picnic.
Make an appointment with the best salon in town. Arrange for her a day of self-indulgence – massage, manicure, pedicure, facial, anything that can help her relax and feel good. The aftermath of this session is definitely going to be wonderful – a rejuvenated, energized, and a happy wife. And who doesn’t like that!
Lastly, take her out on a date to a fancy restaurant. After all marriage isn’t about doing the dishes and discussing children’s projects. Sometimes we forget each other and the reason that made us walk this beautiful path called marriage. If you have a child, arrange a baby sitter and step out with your wife, for an hour or two. Talk about you. Talk about her. Talk about love.
Marriage is the school that gives us lessons on how to become good wives and good husbands, and eventually, it helps us become better human beings.
And remember, as you give, so shall you receive…
the good husband, my husband is. he does some of these works.